Children learn to free themselves from adult care and try to carve a niche for themselves in the peer world. Girls experiment with clothes and make-up to attract boys and boys try to ape senior men to win the approval of girls. Anxiety looms over dating and becoming popular in the circle can be the ultimate aim. Not having 'that' special someone of the opposite sex or not having a date can have serious repercussions on the adolescent psyche and teenagers start considering themselves unworthy. Depression, a sense of worthlessness and sometimes, even suicide can be a result if timely help is not provided at this stage.
Going steady is a rage and getting physically intimate, unprotected sex, unwanted pregnancy, are all issues that concern the youth of today. During dating, young boys are known to behave like real husbands, dominating their girlfriends and being possessive. Also girls portray the stereotype 'docile girl' image even today. Many get into abusive relationships. These are subtle warnings parents or adults should look out for. Some girls prefer choosing boys who're dominating and abusive albeit mentally and such girls enjoy being treated thus. These patterns continue to manifest in adult life, and in marriages too.
Oftentimes, as this is the time when adolescents are coming to terms with their sexuality, sometimes sexual orientation can also be of concern. Girl's and boy's night out can mean many things. According to Psychologist Eric Erickson, this is the stage described as 'Intimacy versus Isolation'. Some gain popularity with the opposite sex, while others perpetually tend to miss the mark. If at this stage, children develop emotional intimacy with a person of the opposite sex, they gain in confidence, their interaction with the world in general improves and life seems meaningful, failing which individuals withdraw into their shells and this result's in isolation.
Sometimes, forced isolation can even result in bonding with same sex members which seems a safe vault and can surprisingly lead to homosexual relationships. Society's outlook on homosexuality being puritanical, many homosexuals still prefer remaining in the closet. These issues can also affect marital relationships later on in life.
Girls with a low self-esteem sometimes flit from one partner to another, trying to usurp even married men or having multiple partners. This is a way of assuring oneself that one is still attractive to the opposite sex. Beneath the fa?ade, lies a very insecure personality with gnawing needs. Such people in long-term relationships will need unconditional love, warmth and acceptance to raise their self-esteem.
How we deal with the same and opposite sex friends, with peer pressure, conflicts, etc, pave the way for more significant relationships later on. Apart from sex education, it'll be wise on our part to include soft skills to manage relationship issues too, that'll enhance self-worth.
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